The Evolution of Perspective

Anyone who knows me knows that I cuss. A LOT. And while I don't cuss all day every day of my life, I speak with a very colorful language sometimes. I cuss when I am happy. I cuss when I am angry (especially). I cuss when I am frustrated. I cuss when I am hurt. Yesterday and some days before that, I was angry about what someone close to me was being subjected to. My reaction during the conversation was filled with the proclamation "FUCK _________________" I said it. I meant it when I said it. I meant it after I said it. AND THEN IT HIT ME to ask myself, "What do you mean when you're telling someone FUCK YOU or saying "FUCK ______________"? What does that mean? I never thought about it before. I NEVER thought about what it meant to me before. I just used the words....caustically and passionately. All this recent talk about rape culture and misogyny filtered its way into my thought process. Ellen Gee, what do you mean when you tell someone &q

Ellen Gee, girl, you are crazy. They don't sell bread at the hardware store.  OH I KNOW. I'm just sitting here trying to figure some things out. I'd posted on social media recently that I don't expect decency from indecent people. I meant it when I said it too. Who was I talking about specifically? Mostly the media. Mainstream, white media. I was thinking about other people too but mostly referring to them. Here's a thing that's on my wishlist for 2016: 1. Black people stop expecting non-black people to tell black stories the way black people would tell black stories. ANYWHERE. EVERYWHERE. JUST STOP. a. they don't share our experiences or perspectives b. they don't seem to care about the truth our experiences or perspectives If you don't like somebody, when you talk about them, do you paint them in an accurate, positive light? If you don't know somebody, when you talk about them, can you paint them in an accurate, positive light? If