But Cranes In The Sky Ain't A Beyonce Song Though

He was singing. "I tried to put one in the ay yah" then asked me who sang the song. I told him Solange. He said "Oh, I rocks with that song, but I like Beyonce better". And I looked at him and asked him why he needed to bring up Beyonce in a discussion about Cranes in The Sky. He said because he likes Beyonce's music. I said BUT THAT IS NOT A BEYONCE SONG THOUGH.

Here's the thing....... If you hear me talking about something I love while comparing it to something I don't like, pay close attention. Ask yourself if I can talk about the thing I love WITHOUT mentioning the thing I don't. If I can, ask me why I brought up the thing I don't love. Chances are I could have accomplished praising what I loved and showering it with adoration WITHOUT thinking about the thing I don't.

This is a bad habit we have in 2017. We stubbornly refuse to acknowledge what we love without including what we don't. Hell, we go on social media and talk about the reasons we don't like something when someone talks about a thing THEY love. I'm still trying to figure out why I do this. I'm legit stuck about it. It's bad enough we give unsolicited advice, opinions, and commentary on social media. We want to take it a leap further and start talking about the opposite.

Say I like Biggie? A Tupac fan is waiting in the darkness to talk about why Pac is better. I ain't ask you though.

Say I like Tupac? A Biggie fan wants to discuss why Biggie is lyrically superior to Tupac. I ain't ask you though.

Say I like Solange's new music? Some random person comes to talk about the things that they didn't like about it. I ain't ask you though.

Say I don't like Solange's new music. Some random person comes to talk about how great they think it is. I! AINT! ASK! YOU! THOUGH!

Now if we're debating why Seat At The Table is or is not the business, speak now or forever hold your peace. If we want to compare Pac vs Biggie lyrically, bring your opinions and back them up with your perspective.

BUT STOP treading on people's thoughts with your anti-their-thoughts. It's rude. And THEY AINT ASK YOU THOUGH. Don't nobody care why I don't like something they like. And don't nobody else care why I like that they don't. You have your own wall, tweets, comments, blog, etc to talk about your opinion about a thing.


Let people like stuff. ALLOW YOURSELF room to like things without talking about things you don't like. It puts less poison in the atmosphere.

I like lemon water. See how easy that is. I didn't talk about why I like lemon water better than soda. I can even take it a step further. I like lemon water because it's healthy. I didn't say I like lemon water because it's better for me than soda.

And while we're at it, can we stop being contrarian and cantankerous and disagreeable in someone's conversation JUST BECAUSE WE CAN? Nobody cares and NOBODY ASKED YOU. The devil don't need NO MORE advocates.

I feel petty. I'm going to stop typing now.